Confidence? Still Hiding Your Voice? What Is It Costing You?
There was a time when I thought confidence belonged to other people. You know the people I’m talking about. The ones who walk into a room and immediately seem comfortable. The ones who always know what to say. The ones who don’t appear to rehearse conversations in their head before speaking.
For a long time, I assumed they had something I didn’t. What I’ve learned since then is that confidence isn’t usually what we’re seeing. Most often, we’re witnessing someone who decided to stop talking themselves out of being seen. That’s different. And it matters. Because there are a lot of incredibly talented people moving through life with the volume turned down on who they really are. Not because they lack ability. Not because they don’t have something valuable to offer. Because somewhere along the journey, they got used to holding back.
I notice it all the time. Someone has a great idea but doesn’t share it. Someone wants to audition but talks themselves out of submitting. Someone has a story that could help another person, yet convinces themselves nobody wants to hear it. The reasons sound different from person to person, but they usually lead to the same place. Silence. Not the peaceful kind. The frustrating kind. The kind where you know there’s more in you, but for whatever reason, it never quite makes it out.
One of the biggest surprises in my own journey was realizing that my voice wasn’t the thing that needed work. My relationship with my voice did. That’s a completely different conversation. I wasn’t struggling because I couldn’t communicate. I was struggling because I was questioning myself before I ever opened my mouth. Maybe you’ve been there. You finally decide to say something, then immediately wonder if you should have said it differently. You share an idea and spend the next hour replaying it in your head. You record yourself and become your own harshest critic. That kind of thinking can wear a person out.
The funny thing is, most people aren’t waiting for perfection from us. They’re looking for honesty. They want to hear a real person. Communication. Someone who sounds genuine. Someone who sounds like themselves. The older I get, the less interested I am in polished and the more interested I am in authentic. Authenticity creates connection. Connection creates trust. Trust opens doors. Not just professionally. Personally too.
I’ve also learned that hiding doesn’t always look like hiding. Sometimes it looks like procrastination. Sometimes it looks like over-preparing. Sometimes it looks like waiting for the perfect moment that somehow never arrives. And sometimes it looks like convincing yourself you’re “not ready yet.” I’ve used that one before. Maybe you have too. The challenge is that life keeps moving while we’re waiting. Waiting for confidence. Opportunities don’t always circle back around. Conversations don’t always happen twice. The chance to speak up is often right in front of us, disguised as an ordinary moment.
If you’re waiting for a day when every doubt disappears before you use your voice fully, you may be waiting longer than necessary. Courage tends to show up while you’re in motion. Not before. Most growth stories begin with someone feeling uncertain and moving forward anyway. That’s certainly been true for me.
So here’s what I’d love for you to consider. Where have you been making yourself smaller than necessary? Where have you been editing yourself before anyone else gets the chance to hear you? What conversation have you been postponing? What opportunity have you been watching from a distance? You don’t have to answer those questions for me. But answer them for yourself. Because your voice matters. Not because it’s perfect. Not because it’s polished. Because it’s yours. And there isn’t another one exactly like it.
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Until next time… I’ll see you back in the booth.
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